Reflecting a lot about what happened last year to all of us it amazes me how Gracious God is!!! Most of the times we focus on. The negative effects on our lives because that's just so natural to do!!
most of you know that my mom, sweet mama passed last August about six months ago. It was the hardest thing to do is to watch your parents decline over the last years of taking care of her.! We all have our loved ones that we cared for and take care of and it’s very difficult especially if you have a family and children and other underlying issues with your health it’s very difficult to take care of another person!!
my husband and I took care of my mom for six years. Most of those years we did not know she had dementia early and she was in depression, so it was very difficult and rewarded at the same at the same time. Take care of her.
Mommy took care of me and I wanted to take care of her till the very end that’s how much I loved her
Got to the point where it was so difficult for me that I my heart was it, Lyle, pounds of fluid extra on my heart and lungs and I was not getting much sleep and I was not taking my meds right or not eating right To I had to go to the hospital to the ER. I got a lot of test done as I remember. I also had a doctors appointment the next day for a follow up. When I went into the ER, I told him I had to go home. I had to take care of my mom. I have to leave to get some sleep as I remember it was a very very long night.
Miss Carol was taking care of Mommy at home 🏡 So my husband can take me in to the ER! So anyhow the next day the nurse gave me extra lasics and after a few days I got the fluid off my heart ❤️ and lungs 🫁. I felt so much better! What a huge difference I felt!
My cardiologist told us I needed have plan b and have a place forpmmy to live its to difficult for me to care for momma all by myself during the daytime hours “
My husband worked long hours and he did a eo did a wonderful job taking care of her!!! Not most men would do the things my hubby did for his sweet mother-in-law “
I was so proud of him!!
These two ✌️ had a special bond with each other it has been so sweet to watch their friendship bond!!! She would always say when's the bald man coming back to see me!!! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
My aunt found a wonderful place for Mommy it was at Chelsea’s Place her room was right by the eating area, and she had a nice big room all to herself. It was very sunny and bright and a large window and her own bathroom.!!!
It was a little scary for all of us. Adjusting to momma living there she did very well. It was harder on Rob and Momma to bring apart from each other but they managed very well he came to see her on his way to work and on his days off!!! Rob would make meals for her and bring them in and mom loved his cooking 🍳!!
Mommy made friends in no time at all! Mom was very very shy 😊 but she did speak when she wanted to and sometimes it was her sassy talk 💬 that's what I loved about her!!!
The best place about Chelsea’s was that it was so close to our house that I could go to her every other day and eat lunch with her. Most of the times I would bring my own lunch and heated up alert, microwave that the chef I got to know At Chelsea’s he says just let me know when you’re here and I will make a plate for you too.!!! Sometimes Cheff k would even share recipes!!!!
another wonderful thing about Chelsea’s place is they do lots of activities. They keep somebody engaged and out of the room to socialize mama really enjoyed painting we brought in lots of paint, and I painted with her before she laid down for her nap. She told me she really enjoys painting together!!!
I am so happy my aunt Vickie found chelsea’s place it was so close I could go every day but I went every two days they even had field trips and I got to go follow them. And join them !” The day we had to put mommy on the hospice care that was the hardest thing to do. I think I was more fearful for that because I knew it was time. The God kept strong 💪 through it all I went home crying almost every day!
it was so hard to know that mama needed more help and more care. The hospice team was great. They would keep her medication going until she couldn’t swallow anymore. Then we noticed that she stayed in a room a lot and she did not get out of bed one month July she had no food or drink. She slept for a whole week we thought she would lose us, but she later she came back to us and she gave us more time!!! The nurse asked her what’s your secret you look good Mary! Mommy looked at me and she said Carrie is my secret!!!! That melted my heart so much and it warmed my heart so much!!!
I was so proud of her! 
Just love this sweet pic of these two!!!!💕
This is miss Carol she helped cared for mommmommy with me. Before Ch Chelsea’s place
She loved coming you see Mommy we brought Mommy's Bible in and she was so happy 😁 She missed her Bible so much she would read it when she would be eating her dinner!
So after Mommy shortly got on hospice she took another turn for the worse we were there every day and Mom's sister was there twice a day!! We didn't want to miss out any time with her the end is so special and so hard “ The hardest part for me was not giving her food and liquids and her not being snlr to smile 😭😭 she gave me one last smile it was emotionally hard for her to do I can only imagine I read her the whole book 📖 of Psalms miss Carol read her her fave Psalms 23
The next day I prayed and talked with mommy holding her hand I said Mommy you you see Jesus she blinkhed her eyes for yes!!! That's how we communicated!! I said Mommy when Jesus comes to take you home 🏡 you need to follow him!! Please follow him its okay to leave Rob and I will take care of each other and take care of your home 🏡. I talked about Jesus glory and how she will see her family that's waiting for her!!!
I told her i promised I would live a full life And when Jesus took me home 🏡. I wanted her to be waiting with arms wide!!!! Mommy gave me a faint smile 😊 and had a tear rolling down her cheek “😭🫶 I whipped her tear away I said Mommy be strong 💪 I promise I will be okay 😘📖🙏 She squeezed my hand 🙌
I said Mommy how much do you love me she had humor still even before her last breath she squeezed my hand so much!!!!!!! She didn't want to stop lol!! 🤣🤣 she tried to laugh and so did I !”
I said Mommy I'm so grateful for all that you have done for me and for me and Rob! I will never ever forget memories !”
Mommy we will see each other again when Jesus calls.Me Home. In His timing! Mommy gave me one last squeeze.
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The next day. Rob didn't have any work. So he wentsee Mommy by himself. I was home resting and napping 😪 I was emotionally drained. I told him this could be our last time she was at the very end of her time “ Rob let me sleep And Rob spent time with her rubbing her arm as she laid the other way facing the wall holding the sweet bear we gave her says I love mom !”
Rob shared what was on his heart to her he told her I love your daughter so much I will be here for her for the test of my life and we will take care of your home 🏡 grow old together in it “
Rob gave her a esr Bud music 🎶 to listen to worship music 🎤 in her ear yes it was Phill Wickham palms 23.
It is such a beautiful song!! He told me Mommy was moving her lips 💋 to the words!!!! That was so precious to me !” to here that there is a photo but that'd for us only
I will give you a video of the artist “
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The staff at Chelsea was amazing during this time some even sang to her and read her Bible to her!! ❤️✝️📖 my heart is so thankful for those who care that much about there jobs !”
I remember wanting to go in that sat. Aug 2 0 but aunt Vickie came over and told us Jesus took Mommy home “ It was very early in the morning I believe Mommy was waiting for Rob to come see her !” Then she was ready to be with her Savior ✝️🫶📖
I told Mommy we will always be a great team she will always be my secret joy 😊. I've learned so much about her on her beautiful service I'm so proud God gave me her as my angel 😇 now she is forever in my heart and will be with me always
Here some fun memories of mommy
No matter what mommy we will always be a great team!!!
Just love this sweet pic of these two!!!!💕
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